“Gay Nikah” and Other Absurdities

A “gay nikah” or “openly gay imam” makes as much sense as “Catholic imam” or “atheist mosque.” Could there ever be such a thing as an Islamic bar mitzvah? Or an Islamic eucharist? How about a Muslim rabbi or a Muslim pope? You can be as postmodern as you want with words, but some terms are just contradictory. We can mix and match words all day, but the result is always nonsense.

Muslim gay rights advocates believe they can co-opt religious terminology for their purposes in their attempt to normalize fahisha.

Well, if they can be creative with words, so can we. Why can’t I co-opt words like, “gay,” “lesbian,” “homosexual,” “transgendered,” etc., and deploy them in new ways without regard to accepted standards of usage?

Let’s give it a try.

Truth is, I fully support gay imams. And gay nikahs. In fact, my wife and I had a gay nikah ourselves. We’re lesbians. I’m a man and she’s a woman, of course, but those facts have no bearing on our passionate lesbianism. Sure, by all appearances, we are exactly like any “straight” husband-wife couple, but that doesn’t stop us from being homosexual together and proud. AND NO ONE CAN TELL US ANY DIFFERENT. ACCEPT US FOR WHO WE ARE.

Frankly, it is a relief to come out of the closet as a lesbian transgendered man. I was born male, have always identified as male, and have had no desire to be a female, but what does any of that have to do with being trans? AND NO ONE CAN TELL ME ANY DIFFERENT YOU CIS-CENTRIC BIGOTS.

My wife and I have tried to gain acceptance from the larger LGBTQIAW community to no avail. They refuse to recognize our marriage as a gay marriage, which shows how intolerant the LGBTQIAW community can really be. There’s a lot of work to be done, but I dream that someday, LGBTQIAW’s at large will cast aside their old-fashioned views of who is or isn’t sufficiently queer and welcome people like me with open arms. Some day. ‪#‎ITGETSBETTER‬

The masjid in our city is also a 100% gay-friendly safe space. The imam is gay and pretty much everyone that attends that mosque is queer. Of course, they also maintain Islam’s stance that same-sex intimacy is a major crime and denounce it accordingly, but that doesn’t make them any less gay or the mosque any less a safe-space. ‪#‎LOVEWINS‬

Also, my cat is a lesbian non-gendered imam. She leads salat at the local meowsque.

A "gay nikah" or "openly gay imam" makes as much sense as "Catholic imam" or "atheist mosque." Could there ever be such…

Posted by Daniel Haqiqatjou on Tuesday, May 10, 2016

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Paul Williams

Reblogged this on Blogging Theology and commented:

Be Nice to People

This is really stupid. Do you have anything of actual substance to say? As Muslims we should respect everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. You seem to have missed this key part of Islam as you criticize everyone elses’ mistakes.


And what sense does your comment even make? You have only done one thing – strengthened my faith; because the Quran says:

“Deaf, dumb and blind – so they will not return.”


You’re doing exactly that.