Note: This was originally posted on Facebook, but Facebook deemed it “hate speech” and deleted it. What is hateful about the below? This is how corporate giants in the West are censoring all aspects of Islam that do not conform to their strict atheistic moral doctrines.
A big part of the responsibility for modesty from some Muslim women falls on Muslim men. Not all of the responsibility, but a big part of it.
Some Muslim men are largely to blame because:
1. They don’t require modesty from their own wives, daughters, and sisters. They just don’t seem to care if their female family members are behaving and dressing modestly or not. These men are like donkeys.
2. They mix freely with women, Muslim and non-Muslim women. What message does this send to Muslim women? If men want to be leaders and true guardians, as Islam requires them to be, they have to lead by example.
3. Some Muslim men take on a white knight role by praising immodest women and immodest actions. Some white knights even go so far as sharing dolled up pictures of Muslim women publicly on the bogus excuse of “empowering the sisters,” or some other white knight nonsense. This normalizes the idea of putting Muslim women in full public display in a way that contradicts Islamic standards of modesty and signals to other Muslim women that it’s ok to make your image as publicly visible as possible.
4. Some Muslim men act completely inappropriately online by flirting or making suggestive remarks or “sliding into dm’s” or even passing around pictures of Muslim women privately. I am not saying that the women who put these glamour pictures online don’t share the blame, but, again, Muslim men have to lead by example by not consuming the pictures and not giving those women the attention they crave.
5. They speak inappropriately about Muslim women privately and sometimes even publicly (cat calling). There is no excuse for disgusting language like this. Would you want other men to talk about your sister or daughter like that? How can you expect Muslim women to act modestly if you’re talking about them in lewd and sexually explicit ways? That’s not how believers behave.
6. Beyond just mixing, they befriend non-mahram women! Men and women cannot be “just friends.” There are so many problems that arise from this behavior beyond the fact that it is completely un islamic. If you want a best friend of the opposite sex, get married. Otherwise, stop participating in what you wrongly think is “innocent.” Zina has become a big problem for some of these more liberal Muslim communities and it all started because thinking casual mixing was perfectly innocent. Men are the ones who need to lay down the law.
7. Some Muslim men drop modesty standards and express great support for “women’s liberation” because they enjoy access to women themselves or they are engaged in haram behavior themselves and feel hypocritical for advocating Islamic modesty. So rather than stop engaging in haram, they resolve the tension by dropping the modesty standards. There are examples of men who fell into zina and then suddenly they are advocating “women’s choice” and “no man can tell a woman what to wear,” and all kinds of other feminist garbage. [NB: I’m not saying that those who advocate these things are secretly guilty of zina.]
Let me be clear here. Feminists criticize Muslim men for not being liberal and secular enough. That is obviously invalid and we have to fight that feminist (and white knight) narrative. But we should criticize Muslim men if they are not living up to true Islamic standards.
And again, I am not saying men are solely at fault for the immodest behavior of some Muslim women. Those women are contributing to the problem. And clearly, the cultural power of the West has a huge impact, but we have to do our part to mitigate its influence. Everyone will be judged for their actions: Women for not dressing and behaving properly will have to answer but their men folk will also be asked about doing their part in supporting them and empowering true modesty and Islamic behavior while also dressing, acting, and speaking modestly themselves.
May Allah strengthen us all.