Saying, “Why aren’t men teaching each other not to rape?” is functionally the same as anti-Muslim bigots saying, “Why aren’t Muslims condemning terrorism?”
We recognize that the 2nd question is prejudiced because it assumes that Muslims are just inherently inclined to commit terrorism unless there is some intervention, unless other Muslims step in and say something. The idea is Muslims are so vile and uncivilized that unless they are explicitly taught it, they simply don’t understand that indiscriminately killing people en masse is wrong.
Similarly, the first question assumes that men are all inherently inclined to rape and are so corrupt and degenerate that unless they are explicitly taught otherwise, they don’t realize that violently raping strangers is wrong.
Both questions also function similarly in that they ignore the social reality. Muslims have condemned terror ad nauseam for decades, globally. And in that same vein, there is no shortage of material and social reinforcement and conditioning dedicated to denouncing rape. But none of that is relevant. Asking these two questions is not about observing an actual lack of condemnation or education. It is about spreading the demonization of Muslims and men, respectively.
Of course, when you present this kind of analysis, both anti-Muslim bigots and feminists have the same reaction:
But terrorism/rape still happens! Therefore Muslims/men are not doing enough to stop it!!!
Now what Muslims have been doing is pointing out that terrorism is not a function of being Muslim. There are just bad apples. That is why we see that many terrorists are also white Christians. The fact that much of terrorism is conducted by white Christians should be evidence that the problem is not with the religion or with the Muslim community at large.
But the same exact reasoning can be employed when it comes to rape. Rape is not a function of being male. There are just bad apples. That is why we see that some rapists are women. The fact that rape is also committed by women should be evidence that the problem is not with masculinity or with the male population at large.
Hopefully, Muslims can appreciate the irony in all this and reject feminist nonsense.