In many ways, the Algerian people are the nation of the Maghreb that most resemble the French. This is not the fault of the Algerians.
On the contrary, this is understandable when one considers that it is the only Maghreb country to have been annexed by France and that its colonial history is the longest. This country has also suffered from ethnic cleansing and genocide by the French powers.
But the facts are undeniable. In Algeria, Arabic usage is regressing, the national slogans defend the republican values of freedom and democracy, and the constitution is copied and pasted from France.
The Algerian hatred against the country of the Enlightenment remains no less intense. And a large part of the Algerian population perpetuates a work of cultural decolonization. Unfortunately, this is a plan that the traitors of the Algerian community try to thwart because of their nostalgia for French Algeria.
As a result of all this, Algerian women are victims of feminist propaganda. The French occupation is not innocent, as the colonial demon first attacked women everywhere in history. It is a strategy as old as the world: corrupting the river by poisoning its source.
As a result, for years, feminist groups have been demonstrating regularly to bring down Islamic law in Algeria.
Behind Every Man, There Is a Woman
Article 66 of the family code in Algeria obliges the woman who remarries to give up custody of her children. This law is effectively derived from the Shariah, which says that the woman has custody of her child until they are seven years old – or pubescent, depending on the fiqhi opinion – but that she must give up this right in case of re-marriage. Some scholars think that the child must return to the grandmother. Others say that the custody then returns to the father.
In reality, the Algerian law is already shifting from the traditional fiqh opinion, as mothers in most fiqh schools do not keep their children after puberty, but they do in Algeria. In the Maliki school, the majority madhhab in Algeria, the boy returns to his father at the age of seven, and the girl stays with her mother until she finds a husband or her mother marries.
It seems that for the feminists of Algeria, this is a problem, as we read in an article written by Médiapart:
Radia, Karima, and more than 12,000 other divorced Algerian women have decided to come out of silence despite the taboos that weigh on their situation. For several months, they have been meeting via a Facebook group to exchange advice and support. And under a keyword that can be translated as “no to the forfeiture of the Algerian mother’s right of custody in case of remarriage”, written in Arabic and English, they ask for the repeal of Article 66 of the Family Code. The same one that deprives them of their “hadana,” an Arabic term to designate the child’s custody.
Their fight is not limited to the virtual. Press conferences, open letters to the President of the Republic and the Ministry of Religious Affairs, petitions… Gathered within an association, these “Courage mothers” multiply the strategies to question the politicians.
“We try to make ourselves heard, but it is as if they plugged their ears in front of us. They don’t answer us. There is always more urgent, more important. Faced with the silence, I lose hope, and I even think of suicide…” Karima regrets. The young woman soothes her sorrow by exchanging with the group members. “But sometimes the other stories are even more depressing than mine.”
Modern society has changed in many ways, and the new context makes the issue of child custody much more sensitive. In Islam, non-custodial parents have the right to visit their child whenever they wish. This right is easy to implement in a traditional society where people live in communities and preserve the bonds between people. But in the modern world, the suffering of separation is often exacerbated. The first to suffer are fathers, who in about 80% of cases are deprived of custody of their children.
Would Algerian feminists perhaps like to reproduce this drama on their soil? They militate ardently against this law, which, according to them, prevents them from rebuilding their lives. It is dangerous to make laws on a whim and to place one’s sensitivity above the law of Allah. This is especially true for women who are much more influenced by negative emotions…
The Wisdom of the Sharia
I don’t need to explain to many of our readers why the idea of having one’s child in the care of a stepfather is disturbing. For men, our natural jealousy is highly sensitive. The thought of a strange man raising our own children is tortuous.
I think this feeling can be understood by women as well. It is common to hear that divorced women have a hard time watching their new husbands correct their children from a previous marriage. Many women feel, even if subconsciously, that it is not his role to do this.
In any case, it is possible to explain these emotions of aversion with much less emotional reasoning.
The man tends to dominate. As the head of the household, he is also a vehicle for values and influences that may very well oppose those of the child’s father. This is particularly dangerous when the mother is more likely to turn her child against the biological father when a divorce occurs. Indeed, when researcher Glynnis Walker conducted interviews with children from divorced families, she found that mothers were five times more likely to badmouth the father.
In addition, it has been shown that children raised by a stepfather tend to fare worse than when the biological father raises them. Warren Farrell – a political scientist and author – tells us in his book The Boys Crisis:
Avoiding the slippery slope to the hierarchical dad is crucial to offsetting these more negative outcomes for children of stepdads:
• Children living with their married biological father do significantly better academically than those living with a stepdad. They have fewer discipline problems, and are more likely to stay in school, attend college, and graduate from college.
• Children between the ages of ten and seventeen who live with two biological or adoptive parents are significantly less likely to experience sexual assault or child abuse and are less likely to witness violence in their families compared to peers living in both single-parent families and stepfamilies
• Adolescents raised in stepfamilies face even higher incarceration rates than those raised in single-mom families.
Of course, not every contributor to these stepdad challenges is preventable. Perhaps the biggest barrier to becoming an effective stepdad is that most stepchildren yearn for the reunification of their biological parents; many feel abandoned, angry, and depressed. Why? Every child wants to know who she or he is, and when children look in the mirror and see their nose, body language, hair, and they their biological parents, not their stepparents.
As always, it was the Shariah that guided us in the right direction from the start, notwithstanding the sentiments of feminists. The solution to custody issues might be for women to think more carefully before demanding divorce from their husbands. Let’s remember that women initiate the majority of divorces.
Feminism is corrupting our Muslim societies.