Gender-Bending: Questioning Motives, Assessing Where We Stand

As you all know, it’s becoming increasingly difficult to use standard language to describe human beings.

In a recent New York Times article, we are informed that doctors misassigned this woman’s gender at birth. Let that marinate in your brain for a moment. A doctor sees a baby, who most likely has fully intact genitalia, let’s say a penis in this case, and then says: “it’s actually a girl.”

This is where we’re headed.

The parents would be horrified and confused, but the gender theorists and women’s studies majors would likely applaud this nuanced understanding of gender.

Given the high level of tension surrounding the issue of gender and the likelihood that you’ll be seen as a bigot for rejecting this new “reality” that there is not much biological basis for the terms “men” and “women,” let’s recall why this is not something to give into easily.

Firstly, there’s no reason to dismiss those who do suffer from feeling they’re not the gender they truly are. However small a group this is, it must be emotionally difficult to bear this level of confusion. But as we’ve discussed before, the solution of giving in to delusion is dangerous indeed. What will happen to the family unit, to medicine? And what about those who realize they’ve made a mistake in taking hormone blockers? In removing their penis? We must also remember the monetary compensation doctors are receiving for performing such operations.

Here is one description (from that same New York Times article) of the type of struggle those with gender dysphoria face:

“Five years ago, while still in high school and dating his girlfriend — Claudia Nardelli, now 22 and his fiancée — he experienced what some in the trans community term an ‘egg’ moment, an emergence. He began questioning whether the crippling migraine headaches and related health complaints that plagued him, most notably after gym class — and that led his mother to take him from one doctor to another — had origins that were not neurological.”

This describes a Venetian woman who is supposedly a man now. To be that, she binds her breasts, takes hormones, and also takes voice lessons. She is awaiting top surgery.

The article’s author presents it as fact that this person’s gender was misassigned at birth.

Let’s run two scenarios here:

The person from the New York Times article sues the doctor who delivered him for medical malpractice. After all, he assigned this “woman” the wrong gender. All this pain, all this suffering, is his fault. How will legal systems be able to handle such an allegation? What will be the basis for the argument that this woman is truly a man? How will she prove it? The doctor will much more easily be able to make his case, as he will base it upon biological facts.

In the second, your family member suffers from schizophrenia. He tells you he hears voices in his head, and he tells you that they are real and that someone is surveilling his brain. Rather than telling him you understand that they seem very real to him but that they are not so we must seek help, you allow him to believe this delusion whole-heartedly. How is accepting one’s false idea of his or her own gender different from this?

RELATED: Muslims Should Never Be Conservatives: A Lesson from Transgenderism

The Kindness Conundrum

Most of what I’ve written above is no longer acceptable in “polite” society. This is posing a very big problem for Muslims [and other religious people] in the West. They know the importance of treating people with kindness, and they also know the importance of preserving the family structure and our bodies as Allah has given them to us.

There’s something I tend to think about in relation to all of this gender-bending and pronoun-changing:

وَعَلَّمَ ءَادَمَ ٱلْأَسْمَآءَ كُلَّهَا ثُمَّ عَرَضَهُمْ عَلَى ٱلْمَلَـٰٓئِكَةِ فَقَالَ أَنۢبِـُٔونِى بِأَسْمَآءِ هَـٰٓؤُلَآءِ إِن كُنتُمْ صَـٰدِقِينَ

“He taught Adam the names of all things, then He presented them to the angels and said, ‘Tell Me the names of these, if what you say is true?’”

(Surat al-Baqarah, 2:31, Translation from here)

It seems now there is a conscious effort to turn some of those names upside down. The fact that names and classification are mentioned in the Quran should give us pause. This transformation of words to try to create a new, unprecedented “reality” is not something we should accept, even if it is because we fear offending others.

RELATED: Transgender Muslims in the Subcontinent? Making Sense of Hijras

Fitting in

I have come to question some of the motives for embracing these LGBT terms with such vigor. To not do so is to lose a job or to not get one. For non-Muslim parents of young children, it seems at times that they are all too eager to adopt the hip lingo that floated around them at college and test it on their kids.

So this focus on sexuality with small children is not only disgusting, it raises questions as to motive. Sure, not all parents are using their kids as a ticket to the in-crowd and social validation in this “woke world.”  There still exists parents who genuinely believe what they teach their kids.

And yet questions remain around all this rhetoric and talk about trans-this and agender-that. Could it be that some label themselves or their children with the most obtuse (“pansexual,” “agender”) of these new terms in order to secure and maintain good positions in their societies and more specifically at work? As always, it’s hard to determine intentions unequivocally, but this certainly raises eyebrows, not to mention the perversity of sexualizing children in this way.

Job applications may now ask you if you identify with any minority groups, such as being gay. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Since when does your sexual preference become so relevant to your job?

RELATED: Qawm Lut Uprising: Gay Choir Threatens to “Convert Your Children”

Living the Dream

It’s of upmost important to remember that this social and sexual experiment will lead to a society in which words are meaningless, traditional family structures do not exist, and we are defined by sexuality (though no one will be able to define any related terms).

What kind of laws will this yield? What kind of progress and developments for humanity will such a society yield? Stuff like this?

This solution of living out gender and sexual fantasies by “affirming” them and making them the focus of public life is extremely harmful to the individual and to society. It gives a false sense of reality to the individual. It twists sexuality, making it not only the focus of one’s life and identity, but the focus of society and the policies that help to govern and direct it. It is no wonder that Islam completely condemns these beliefs and practices.


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We need to stop using euphemisms. It isn’t too surgery, it is a bilateral mastectomy or artificial breast implants. It isn’t bottom surgery, it is castration and ripping half of someone’s arm off to make a monstrosity out of the skin.


What euphemisms? They are all regarded as a surgery by all sources. The words “top surgery” and “bottom surgery” are no euphemism; they are also used by the American Society of Plastic Surgeons.


Yes, it is not even allowed to call grapes Al-Karm.

We should stop calling prostitutes as sex-workers.


The reference to the verse about Adam as being taught the names of all things was a very interesting one. In a similar vein, the idea of the first human-human relationship being made being a husband-wife relationship is also very anchoring in this day and age. It seems there’s a push to ‘define’ everything and the definition game can lead to so much confusion. While everyone else quabbles about why this and why not that, we Alhamdulillah have answers for ourselves, to ground us.