Youth and beauty are natural gifts given to every human female.
Temporary gifts. Time-sensitive assets.
With the passage of time, these assets depreciate and these gifts begin to slowly fade.
Every female is on a timeline.
It’s not a timeline created by humans or imposed by men or dictated by the society– rather, it’s a natural, biological timeline that Allah has created.
What she does with these gifts is entirely up to each individual female.
Some women take these gifts of youth and beauty and abuse them, exposing their beautiful faces and young bodies publicly for cheap male attention or monetary gain. OnlyFans, Hollywood, modeling agencies are one extreme for women who do this professionally, and the other side is amateur selfies and general online nakedness on a random girl’s social media. One route pays her in money and fame, and the other in likes and dm’s from random guys. Either way, it’s the commodification and commercialization of the female body. And the abuse of female youth and beauty.
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Other women take these gifts of youth and beauty and mostly ignore them, dedicating themselves to other “projects” instead. In the modern age, the two main projects are secular western education and career. Just when she reaches the peak of her loveliness and the ideal time range to utilize her reproductive capabilities, she turns away from these pursuits at this critical time to do other things of far less importance. She spends years, decades, in school accumulating secular degrees in secular subjects, then even more years chasing a career and “getting established.” She trades marriage and family for school and jobs. She exchanges being a wife and a mother for being a perpetual student and a capitalist worker. She doesn’t want to waste the years she spent getting an education by not getting a career. So, instead, she ends up inadvertently wasting her natural gifts of youth and beauty.
Some women make good use of these natural gifts and capitalize fully on their God-given assets. She understands that beauty is fleeting and youth ends, and that over time her pool of potential mates naturally shrinks, especially if she wants a quality husband.
So she focuses on readying herself to be a good wife and a good mother to her future husband and future children.
She makes marriage a priority.
She accepts reality: men are attracted to youth and beauty in a wife, among other factors including deen and good character. She recognizes the biological realities of being female and how they differ from the biological realities of males. She knows that her reproductive ability has certain time-related limits creates by Allah. She realizes the importance of marriage in Islam, the massive rewards for mothers with Allah, and that being a righteous wife can be her direct path to Jannah.
So, she doesn’t allow other pursuits to distract her, or foolishly walk away from what is time-sensitive to what isn’t.
She leverages her youth and beauty to maximum advantage.
She maximizes her options.
Coupled with her adherence to Islam, her good character, her modesty, and her femininity, these two gifts of youth and beauty will allow her to have her pick of good men, in her pursuit of marriage.
If reading this post has made you uncomfortable or given you “the ick,” I understand.
It’s the same “ick” non-Muslims get when they hear about young marriage (like our Mother `Aisha رضي الله عنها when she got married as a young girl to our noble Prophet Muhammad ﷺ).
These things used to be 100% common knowledge. This used to be common sense. This is what our great-grandmothers used to teach their daughters and their granddaughters. Everyone knew this, and lived accordingly.
But in our era of liberal, secular feminism and capitalist modernity, this deep age-old knowledge has dissipated and almost entirely disappeared.
But reality doesn’t disappear just because you ignore it.
The truth doesn’t go away just because you suppress it.
Ladies, your timeline is not the same as a man.
Don’t let anyone, man or woman, fool you or distract you or waste your precious time.
Don’t waste your gifts.
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well there are a lot of women who managed to get educated and also find mates and marry so it is not like either Marry or educate and iam talking based on real life examples , this is just exaggerating
Yes she’s not saying it is wrong to be educated but just highlighting where the priority should be
She’s saying that woman should give up education in order to marry look at this part (So, she doesn’t allow other pursuits to distract her, or foolishly walk away from what is time-sensitive to what isn’t.)
And basically making marriage top priority is not islamically obligatory , like what she is trying to convey, because marriage is a Sunnah (recommendation) but not obligatory, so if a woman abandoned marriage altogether and doesn’t have fear of fornification she is not a sinner
True but individual exception doesn’t cancel out population trend.I also know many educated women who got married. And I also know popluation study from which it is clear that structure makes women take certain deceisions which they regret later. This is not exaggeration at all. This is based on data. Look at western society doesn’t non-marriage correlated with zina even in muslim society? Birth rate and family collapse etc in urban areas where women are most educated?
Non marriage correlate with zina in non Muslim societies because they allow zina in first place however in Muslim societies, even lower marriage rates don’t produce higher zina rates and regarding the trend that birth rate and family collapse is due to women education is not true because family collapse comes from wrong expectations from both of the parties not education
And regarding birth rate thing, women have been in education for the past 60 years if not more yet in 1965 world population was 3.3 billion and today it is 8.2 and it is expected to be 9.7 billion in 2050 so no women education doesn’t prevent population growth
It does because the population growth was largely affected by conservative and traditional societies henceforth a huge birth rate in them. Whereas societies where women’s freedom is maximum tend to have near or below replacement level birth-rates, this is no exaggeration. It’s an obvious fact.
US population in 1980 was 226M today it is 343M this is 50 percent increase in less than half century, Brazil population in 1990 was 150M now it is 212M , Netherlands population in 1990 was 15M today 18M , china population in 1990 was 1.13B now it is 1.4B , these countries are not certainly “traditional or conservative” even the us in 1980 was not traditional by any means
I don’t get why you are so obsessed with sending girls to get all of this schooling.
Look at Iran’s total fertility rate, it is only 1.67 per woman, which apparently was due to:
“Moreover, studies suggest that only 61% of the reduction in TFR could be attributed to FP practices, and rest has been mainly due to the elevated age of marriage among Iranian women (primarily due to their pursuit of higher educations and the shift in some of the socio-cultural norms),
Also it simply improves the economy of a country by increasing number of workers and productivity, a study was made in USA about american women whose ethnicity was latinas and they found that their contribution to the American economy was 1.3 Trillion dollars back in 2021 which is simply bigger than many other countries economies and those women population were only 30M and in our day and age the economy is the first line of defense every country
desire to have no future birth, and other proximate determinants of reduction in fertility”
Iran’s shift in family planning policies: concerns and challenges
Mohammad Karamouzian 1,3, Hamid Sharifi 2, Ali Akbar Haghdoost 3,*
Iran population in 2010 was 77M now it is 92M , in just 15 years they got increased by 15M Which means every year 1M babies are born , so women education and career didn’t prevent Iran from growing it’s population
And honestly Iran doesn’t really empower women because it gives them access to education but when it comes to job , the country doesn’t provide that much of job opportunities for women so most of educated women end up being unable to work
I think you are misunderstanding the issue here.Iran’s population growth reflects demographic momentum from large cohorts born in the 1980s–90s, not high current fertility. Fertility and marriage rates have been below replacement for years. Population totals lag underlying demographic collapse. You should look at Total Fertility Rate (TFR),Age at first marriage,Percentage never married,Urban vs rural fertility,Cohort fertility.See Ron Lesthaeghe’s work on the second demographic transition.
From Wikipedia, it says that women formal education begun in 1907 , and in 1935 they were admitted to Tehran university, long before 1980s-90s
Early female education among urban elites is not demographically equivalent to mass, society-wide education. Fertility responds only once education saturates across cohorts and intersects with urbanization and delayed marriage. That shift occurs in Iran mainly from the late 1980s–1990s. This is why fertility is consistently observed to be lower in urban areas and higher in rural area accross societies.
Mass society education in Iran for women started in early 20th century, it was exclusive rights to the elite in the 19th century , and in 1990 Iran replacement rate was 4.93 children per women in fact, even before the Islamic revolution in 1979 Iran replacement rate in 1975 was 5.95 and grew to 6.34 in 1978 but by 1978 , women education was already available to masses long ago
I think the reason for the fertility drop is due to the iran-iraq war which put a heavy toll on economy and combined with later sanctions, all of these created a difficult and costly environment for having more children
Economically poor societies can still have high fertility, especially in rural settings where early marriage, kin support, and family-based livelihoods make childrearing viable. Fertility decline is driven not by poverty but by delayed marriage: extended female schooling occupies prime reproductive years, raises age at first marriage, and reduces women’s lifetime fertility. Iran follows this same life-course pattern observed cross-regionally in demographic research
Societies who are poor initially do have high fertility rates because they mainly relay on agriculture which requires alot of people so the incentive to have alot of children is high but when talking about Iran which was already urbanized and industrialized by 1970s and then got poorer due to sanctions, and war , the incentive to have more children is weak because they no longer relay on agriculture also combined with the government campaigns supporting family planning in 1990s